Lessons From My Dad
“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example rather than his advice.”
Growing up, I didn't see my dad that often.
Not because he wasn't part of my life, but because he would leave for work before I got ready for school and he wouldn't get home till later in the evening.
As a child, I really didn't understand where he was all day. But as I got older, I realized that he was leaving early in the mornings to battle the traffic to Downtown Los Angeles, and after working a 10-hour shift, he would sit in traffic on his way back home.
Looking back, I realize how much I appreciate the sacrifices my father made as an immigrant, who came to the US in 1971 with nothing but the shirt on his back.
As I reminisce about my childhood, I realize that my father was a constant source of wisdom and guidance. Though he was a man of few words, he imparted valuable lessons that have shaped the person I am today.
Me and my dad.
Last week, I shared how as a parent you could pass on your wisdom to your kids. Today I’m going to present the opposite side of the equation by sharing valuable insights that my father imparted to me.
Hard Work and Dedication
From a young age, my father emphasized the importance of hard work and dedication. Through his actions, he taught me that nothing worthwhile comes easy and that success requires perseverance and determination. Whether it was in my studies, extracurricular activities, or chores around the house, he instilled in me the belief that giving my best effort was essential.
Integrity and Honesty
My father always stressed the importance of integrity and honesty in all aspects of life. He taught me that one's character is defined by their actions, and that honesty is always the best policy. He believed that a person's reputation is their most valuable asset. Preserving my reputation is of paramount importance to me, compelling me to safeguard it diligently.
Kindness and Compassion
My dad was a kind and compassionate person, and he taught me the importance of treating others with respect and empathy. As a child who grew up in an orphanage, he knew first-hand that everyone has their own struggles and that it's important to be understanding and supportive. He encouraged me to put myself in other people's shoes and lend a helping hand whenever I could. Understanding the significance of this lesson, I recognize the imperative of making a positive impact on the lives of those around me.
Financial Responsibility
As I mentioned in my previous post, my parents rarely spoke about money. It seemed to be a taboo subject. Or maybe since we didn’t have a lot of money growing up, there wasn’t much to talk about. Even though it was never discussed, I watched my father diligently balance his checkbook every month. He had an organized file cabinet with all the different bills he paid. He never wanted to be late on a payment. It was important to live within our means and avoid debt. What I witnessed helped me become financially responsible from an early age. I would also balance my checkbook and had a file cabinet where I stored all my financial documents.
Staying Humble
We didn’t have a lot, but my dad wanted to make sure that stayed humble. He always emphasized that no matter how successful or accomplished I might become, I should never let pride or arrogance cloud my judgment. I quickly learned that everyone has their own unique strengths and weaknesses, and that true success lies in recognizing and appreciating the contributions of others. Throughout the years, this has helped be open to learning from anyone, regardless of their background or position, and to always strive for personal growth and improvement.
Being Respectful
My father taught me the importance of minding my own business and being respectful to others, regardless of their behavior towards me. I recall one time when we were walking past an individual who was trying to sabotage my father’s business and my dad said good morning and wished him a great day. I was baffled. Later I asked my dad why he was so nice to this individual, when they had been so rude to him in the past. He explained that it's important to focus on my own actions and behavior, rather than getting caught up in the drama and negativity of others. Being respectful, even when it's difficult, can help to defuse situations and promote a more positive environment. This lesson has stayed with me throughout my life, and I strive to apply it in all my interactions with others.
These are just a few of the many lessons I learned from my father while growing up. His guidance, wisdom, and love have had a profound impact on my life, and I am eternally grateful. I will always cherish the memories and lessons he shared with me and hope to pass them on to my own children.
The knowledge we acquire from our parents extends beyond financial matters, intricately influencing our decision-making throughout life. As you delve into this text, I encourage you to reflect upon the wisdom imparted upon you and how it has shaped your journey over the years.
~Alex
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